Relationship with others (العلاقة مع الآخرين)
HONESTY IN BUSINESS RELATIONSHIP (الصدق في العلاقة التجارية)
Earning one’s living through decent labor is not only a duty but a great virtue as well. Dependence of any able effortless person on somebody else for a livelihood is a religious sin, a social stigma and disgraceful humility. A Muslim is enjoined by God to be self-supporting and to stay away from being a liability on anybody. Islam respects all kinds of work for earning one’s livelihood so long as there is no indecency or wrong involved. Whatever the individual makes or earns through lawful means is his private possession.
The person who is working for another person or for a firm or an institution is ordained by God to do his work with efficiency and honesty. The Prophet said that if any of you undertakes to do any work, God loves to see him do it well and with efficiency. Once the work is done, the worker is entitled to a fair wage for his services.
Honest trade is permitted and blessed by God but all business deals should be concluded with frankness and honesty. Cheating, bidding defects of merchandise from the dealers, exploiting the needs of customers, monopoly of stocks to force one’s own prices are all sinful acts and punishable by the Islamic Law.
If one is to make a decent living, it has to be made through honest ways and hard endeavor. Otherwise, easy come, easy go, and it is not only that, but anybody that is bred with unlawful provisions will be, according to the Prophet, a burning fuel to the Hell Fire on the Day of Judgment.
The future of cheaters is grim and their doom is awful. Here is how the Qur’an looks into the matter: “Woe to those who deal in fraud, those who, when they have to receive by measure from men, exact full measure, but when they have to give by measure or weight to men give less than due. Do they not think that they will be called to account on a Mighty Day, a Day when (all) mankind will stand before the Lord of the Worlds.” [Al-Mutaffifin 83:1-6]
HONESTY IN EDUCATING CHILDREN (الصدق في تعليم الأطفال)
Educate your children by your example. Without thinking, we teach our children that dishonesty is acceptable. When we expect our children to tell the caller on the telephone we are not home, this is a lesson in deceit. When we refuse invitations and pretend we are busy, this is lying. We admonish our children for lying, yet the reality is we have been their teachers.
Honesty incorporates the concepts of truthfulness and reliability and it resides in all human thought, words, actions and relationships. It is more than just accuracy; it is more than just truthfulness, it denotes integrity or moral soundness. Islam commands truthfulness and forbids lying.
God commands that a Muslim be honest. “O you who believe! Fear God, and be with those who are true (in word and deeds).” [At-Tawbah 9:119]
HONESTY IN JOKING (الصدق في المزاح)
Some people think that it is permissible to tell lies if it is in jest. This is the excuse that they use for telling lies on April 1st or on other days. This is wrong. There is no basis for this in the pure Shari’ah. Lying is Haram, whether the one who does it is joking or is serious. Lying in jest is Haram just like other kinds of lies.
It was narrated that Ibn ‘Umar said: “The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, ‘I joke, but I speak nothing but the truth.’” [Narrated by At-Tabarani in Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabir, 12/391]
It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah said: “They said, ‘O Messenger of Allah, you joke with us.’ He said, ‘But I only speak the truth.’” [Narrated by Al-Tirmidhi, 1990]
Mockery of the religion is disbelief (Kufr). Whoever mocks anything from what Allah sent down or of anything that the Messenger came with has become a disbeliever.
“And if you were to ask them, they would say: ‘Surely we were only jesting and playing.’ Say: ‘Was it Allah, His Verses, or His Messenger you were mocking? Make no mistake, verily you have disbelieved after your belief.’” [At-Tawbah 9:65-66]
The verse meant that they were believers prior to that, but then they became disbelievers by mocking that which they knew that it was Haram to mock, but they did not think that this was Kufr. The same applies to making fun of some Sunnah such as making fun of the beard, the Hijab, shortening one’s garment, etc.
NO OFFENSIVE NAME CALLING OR LOOKING DOWN ON OTHERS
Name calling is another term for verbal abuse, mostly personal. It is an abusive or insulting language, also called sarcasm. Abandon and shun guile, deceit, scornfulness, or sarcasm because these are unlawful.
“O you who believe, let no men scorn other men, for they might well be better than they are. And let no women scorn other women, for they might well be better than they. And do not find fault with one another, or give each other insulting nicknames.” [Al-Hujurat 49:11]
“Woe to whoever demeans others behind their back or to their face.” [Al-Humazah 104:1]
The Prophet ﷺ said, “Let there be no harming another, or harming him back. Whoever harms another Allah shall harm, and whoever gives trouble to another Allah shall give trouble to.” [Hakim, 2.58. Hg]
Do not be suspicious because you might interpret the situation in a wrong way. If you are always in doubt, you will end up having no friends. Do not let the bad thoughts overcome your good thoughts. Too much suspicion will lead you to suspect your relationship with Allah.
ENVY (الحسد) & JEALOUSY (الغيرة)
Strictly speaking, envy (Hasad) is hatred and disliking the good condition of the envied one.
“And from the evil of the envier when he envies.” [Al-Falaq 113:5]
Two types of envy:
- Unrestricted dislike of the blessings bestowed upon the envied. This is the type of jealousy which incurs blame, so when one hates something he is then hurt and grieved by the existence of what he hates, and this becomes a sickness in his heart such that he takes pleasure in removal of the blessings from the envied even if this does not result in any benefit to him except for the single benefit of having the pain that was in his soul removed. But this pain is not removed except as a result of his continuously watching the envied so that the jealous person finds relief when the blessing is removed, but then it becomes more severe as is the case of the one who is sick, for it is possible that this blessing, or one similar to it, returns to the envied. This is why this second group said: ‘It is a desire to have the blessings removed,’ for indeed the one who dislikes the blessings bestowed upon other than him desires to see them removed.
- The dislike of the superiority of that person over him, and he desires to be like her or better, so this is jealousy and has been called Ghubtah.
2 kinds of desirable envy:
- One who has a lot of money and spending it in the way of Allah
- One who has a beneficial knowledge and teaching it to others
“There is no desirable form of jealousy except for two types: a person to whom Allah has given the Qur’an and he recites it day and night, so when a person hears him he says, ‘If only I were given the likes of what he has been given so that I may act upon it the way this person is.’ And a person to whom Allah has bestowed wealth and he spends in the cause of Truth, so a person says, ‘If only I were given the likes of what he has been given, so that I may act upon it the way this person is.’” [Sahih Al-Bukhari, Eng. Trans. 6/501 no. 544]
3 reasons of envy: anger, arrogance and bad insight
Do your good deeds secretly. Do not show it up because people may envy you. Envy is burning your good deeds and you are committing a sin. The envious people are sick in their bodies. They do not enjoy what they have because they are not satisfied with it. They are sad, miserable people. Their envy takes away the joy of their lives. They are always on guard of other people’s good things. The feeling of satisfaction is a blessing from Allah, you are happy with what you have because you are contented with it.