Relationship with others (العلاقة مع الآخرين)
Lo! Allah commands you that you restore deposits to their owners, and, if ye judge between mankind, that you judge justly. Lo! Comely is this which Allah admonishes you. Lo! Allah is ever Hearer, Seer. [An-Nisa 4:58]
Lo! We offered the trust unto the heavens and the earth and the hills, but they shrank from bearing it and were afraid of it. And man assumed it. Lo! He has proved a tyrant and a fool. [Al-Ahzab 33:72]
But none is granted it save those who are steadfast, and none is granted it save the owner of great happiness. [Fussilat 41:35]
In every action, there is a reaction. There are 3 levels of reaction: fairness, revenge and forgiveness
The door of forgiveness is always open in our lives. And verily whosoever is patient and forgives – lo! That, verily, is (of) the steadfast heart of things. [Ash-Shura 42:43]
TIMIDITY (الحياء) / MODESTY (التواضع) / SHYNESS (الخجل)
Every religion has its own character and Islam’s character is modesty.
3 kinds of modesty:
- Modesty with Allah
- Modesty with others: the way you deal, trust, approach, talk…
- Modesty with yourself: If you are doing something in secret but you will be embarrassed doing in public, that means you are disrespecting yourself. If you do not feel shy, you will do anything.
To extend kindness to self and kindness to all creatures is the goal that determines the position of one before Allah in this world and the Hereafter. It is also this kindness that determines man’s position among his fellow human beings. All obligatory and forbidden things are based on this kindness. Allah has made it obligatory in all His legislations.
Performing obligatory acts in the perfect form and refraining from forbidden things are the greatest acts of doing kindness to oneself.
The Prophet ﷺ said, “Allah has ordained kindness on everything. When you kill (an animal) kill (it) kindly and when you slaughter (an animal), slaughter (it) kindly. Let anyone of you sharpen his knife and let him give rest to his slaughtered animal.”
“Allah ordained kindness on everything” has two meanings:
- Perfection on every obligatory duty. A Muslim should do as much supererogatory aspects of it as he can and that he should refrain from all aspects of forbidden things. Allah says, Leave (O mankind, all kinds of) sin, open and secret. [Al-An‘am 6:120]
- Kindness to all creatures. Allah gives an absolute and general command about kindness when He says, “And do good. Truly, Allah loves the good-doers.” [Al-Baqarah 2:195] He also says, “Indeed, Allah orders and good conduct.” [An-Nahl 16:90]
Allah also ordains kindness in a specified and detailed form. He ordains that the parents, the relatives, the neighbors, the poor, the weak, the distressed, the orphans and others should all be treated with kindness. Being kind to the creatures entails being generous to them and refraining from harming them.
Worship Allah and join none with Him in worship; and do good to parents, kinsfolk, orphans, the poor, the neighbor who is near of kin, the neighbor who is a stranger, the companion by your side, the wayfarer (you meet), and those (slaves) whom your right hands possess. Verily, Allah does not like such as are proud and boastful. [An-Nisa 4:36]
If we wish Allah to be merciful to us, we must be eager to show mercy to all the living creatures of the earth. Patience leads to kindness. Cruelty leads to meanness.
COLLABORATION / COOPERATION (التعاون)
Cooperation means helping each other and extending material support. It plays a vital role in the betterment of depressed classes and creates feeling of love amongst Muslims.
The Prophet ﷺ in one of his testaments to `Ali Ibn Abi Talib (‘aleyhi salam) said: “The most commendable are three deeds: First is being just to the people even against yourself. Secondly, cooperation and material help to (Muslim) brothers. Thirdly, remembrance of Allah in all circumstances.”
It is the duty of a believer towards another believer to love him in his heart, to assist him with his wealth, and to stand by his side against one who does injustice to him. “… but help you one another unto righteousness and pious duty. Help not one another unto sin and transgression, but keep your duty to Allah. Lo! Allah is severe in punishment.” [Al-Ma’idah 5:2]
Cooperation in work produces better results. You are rewarded in helping someone in distress in any way possible and Allah in return will relieve you your distress on the Day of Judgment.
“Say: Who hath forbidden the adornment of Allah which He hath brought forth for His bondmen and the good things of His providing? Say: Such, on the Day of Resurrection, will be only for those who believed during the life of the world. Thus do we detail Our revelations for people who have knowledge.” [Al-A’raf 7:32]
Anas reported that a man was with the Prophet ﷺ, when a man passed by him and said, “O Messenger of Allah, I love this man.” The Prophet said to him, “Have you informed him?” He said, “No.” He said, “Inform him,” and he caught up with him and said, “I love you for the sake of Allah (Uhibbuki fillah).” He said, “The One for whom you love me has made me love you (Ahabbakil ladhi ahbabtani fih).” [Abu Dawud]